Can I keep in contact with my child after they graduate?

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When my child completes the program, what happens? Will I still get to correspond with them?
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Haley, Sponsor and Donor Relations, Operations

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While Compassion does allow sponsors to continue writing when a child leaves the program, we strongly discourage it due to privacy and safety concerns. The communication is outside Compassion’s oversight and is no longer monitored for content. Sponsors have received solicitation for money from people claiming to be friends or family members or even from the formerly sponsored child and that can create an uncomfortable situation.

We also know that sponsors who continue corresponding face the challenge of finding someone who can translate letters to and from the child. In addition, most children in developing countries do not have the resources to send letters through the postal system.

We ask that you prayerfully consider whether this would be a suitable option for you. If you feel this is something you would like more information about, please let us know. There are a few situations where this is not possible for Compassion - for instance, if the child has moved or if they have been out of Compassion's program for more than three months.
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Eliza Martin

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It really depends on your child and the relationship you had with them while in the program. I signed release forms for a few of my kids just cause I was excited and hoped we could stay in touch but it never happened- I should have known that based on how we communicated during the program. However I have a child that we had wonderful communication while she was in and I signed the release with her and we have been in email contact for over a year now and we are so blessed and I am so glad we did. It is wonderful to know what is happening in her life now and get little snippets of her life and her ours. It is a tremendous opportunity. I have one child graduating soon and will not sign the release for her because it has been a struggle for her to communicate while in the program so it would not make sense and having my personal contact information could be a temptation for her and I dont want to create an issue like that. But I would not take back having this ongoing relationship with Nining- it is such a blessing. She just recently sent photos of her and her fiance'.
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I have heard through reading one of the Compassion blogs that it is possible to continue communication with your sponsored child/children once they turn 18 and are no longer able to be in the program. Can you please explain that process and what it entails? As of right now, I cannot afford to pay the $300/month for the 'Future Leader' program. Is there another way to maintain contact?

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Continued Communication with Sponsored Child.
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Shaina Moats

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Yes, you can continue to correspond with your child.You can read about the program above. Just give us a call at (800) 336-7676 and we can walk you through the process. You can also email us at ciinfo@us.ci.org.
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Becky Clegg

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What happens after my child finishes with the program(graduates) on Dec. 1, 2013? I have sponsored this child since he was 7 yrs old. Do or can we keep in contact with them? If they have sibblings is it possible to sponsor them?

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Can I keep in contact with my child after they graduate?.
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If your sponsored child's siblings are in our program and not already sponsored, you are welcome to sponsor. To find out if they are available for sponsorship, please contact us using the tab above.
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My child will be completing the project in October. What happens after this? Should I stop my automatic payment plan? I understand I can give him one last gift that 100% will go to him, can I do that online but make sure it is directed as such? After writing him for so many years, it is so sad just to stop- but are we able to connect with them outside Compassion at all? Thanks!

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Child will be "graduating" from program.
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Shaina Moats

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Chara, we will contact you once your child graduates and give you the option of choosing another child or stopping your contributions. You may give a final gift over the phone to your sponsored child. There is not a way to do this online.
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Wesley Macedo Miranda

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I am already graduated, am 19 years old today
and I continue to maintain contact with my godparents
the NETHERLANDS (Naacy eJaap)
Can I count on your help in compassion?
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Shaina Moats

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Wesley, you are welcome to contact the Compassion Netherlands office to see if they can help you. You've contacted the Compassion US office.
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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled
After Graduation.


Is there a way to find our sponsored child after graduation? Thank YOU!!!
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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled
My child from Guatemala turns 18 in Sept. can I still keep in touch with her?.


Hi, My sponsored child in Guatemala will be turning 18 in September. Will I be able to continue sharing letters with her?  Will I have the opportunity to sponsor one of her siblings or a relative?
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Hi Julie! Yes, your child in Guatemala is nearing the end of the program and is anticipated to complete the program sometime this summer. When she does complete, we will let you know, and you will be able to send one last letter to her through Compassion. If you have prayerfully decided that you'd like to continue contact with her outside of Compassion once she graduates, please let us know at that time.

Her thirteen year old brother is registered in Compassion's program but he is already sponsored by someone else. There are only the two children in her family. 
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Hi! My correspondence child in Guatemala just graduated the program. Will I get the contact info form for him? So far I got a phone call but nothing in the mail. I'd love to keep in touch with him and his family if he is interested.

Thanks,

Andrea
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Hi Andrea! The process for continuing correspondence with a child once they leave the program is that the sponsor must request this form be sent to them. I certainly understand your desire to stay in touch as I can see you had a pretty great letter writing relationship over the years with him! I have requested that a release form be mailed to your address :). You can expect to receive this within the next couple of weeks!
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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled Aging out & supporting afterwards.

One of my sponsored children (from Uganda) will turn 22 one year from this July 15. I am very concerned about his life without our support. I would like to keep in touch with him and help him after he has aged out of the program. How is that possible?
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Hi Paul! I can definitely understand your concern and we appreciate how much you care for Bosco. I do see that he will be completing in 2016; thank you so much for helping him reach this point in his life! First, I want to encourage you that you have been such a faithful letter writer and with both your support and encouragement you and Heather have provided, he's been given opportunities, life skills, and wisdom that he wouldn't have received otherwise. His life has been significantly impacted by the love you've shown him. 

As Debbie and Emily mentioned in their replies to you, a graduation gift anywhere from $10-$2000 can be sent, you can send a final letter and if you wish, we can also send you information on continuing correspondence with him after he completes our program although this is something don't suggest and usually discourage which you can read about in this conversation that I merged your inquiry into.

The goal of Compassion's program is for our beneficiaries to become responsible and fulfilled Christian adults. We want them to become self sustaining and not become dependent on our support which can hinder their success in the long run if they're not taught to how to support themselves and become independent. We want to release them from all aspects of poverty. This is why we limit their time in our program, training them and teaching them life skills that will help them in the future and pull them out of poverty so that they leave our program in a better state then when they entered.

Bosco looks like he's in a great place and has reached the 11th grade! Completing this level of education is incredible as many children don't get the opportunity to receive an education in the areas we work in. The project that he attends provides leadership training programs, vocational training's, clubs to get them involved in the community and with their peers, counseling, discipleship programs, retreats, and many other activities that will help propel him into the next steps in his life. You can also be encouraged to know that often times, after a child graduates our program, they stay actively involved in the church and maintain the relationships they've built over the years with their tutors and other staff members.