Departed child

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I have sponsored a child for over 10 years.  Just recently I received a voice mail message that our child is over 21 and has departed the program.  When I logged into my account, my child had already been deleted from my account.  We felt has if our child and her family were apart of our family.  Why weren't we notified the year (or 6 months) previously, so we could have written a proper good bye to our child (who is in college not at home with family) and a proper good bye to her family.  Has my child been given my email to keep in contact with me?  When I called your office, I was told I could write a physical letter and they would try to get it to my child.  As my child, is at a college that I don't know the name of, I find this hard to believe that my letter will ever be received.  Children must depart the program regularly; I believe that Compassion could have handled this situation and others in a better manner so sponsors and their child are given enough time to make this a smooth transition.
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Alyssa

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  • very sad as I have no email or contact info for my child or her family

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Beth Fulgham

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I am so sorry this happened to you. I am sponcering two children for a year and a half. If this is the way they handle children graduating from the program I am thinking I will not continue sponcering. I would be so heartbroken for this to happen after I have known them for so long.
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As my children get older, I share a concern about when the leave the program also. Knowing that it can takes months for a child to get the sponsor's letter, they would be long gone from the program by the time the sponsor's letter got to the center after they received notification that the child's program was ending. HERE IS AN IDEA FOR COMPASSION:  Out of respect for sponsors, and the children who are aging out of the program, I think that notice should be given to sponsors well ahead of time during the last year so they can plan accordingly as they write what will be some of their last letters.

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Alyssa

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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled Departed child.

I have sponsored a child for over 10 years.  Just recently I received a voice mail message that our child is over 21 and has departed the program.  When I logged into my account, my child had already been deleted from my account.  We felt has if our child and her family were apart of our family.  Why weren't we notified the year (or 6 months) previously, so we could have written a proper good bye to our child (who is in college not at home with family) and a proper good bye to her family.  Has my child been given my email to keep in contact with me?  When I called your office, I was told I could write a physical letter and they would try to get it to my child.  As my child, is at a college that I don't know the name of, I find this hard to believe that my letter will ever be received.  Children must depart the program regularly; I believe that Compassion could have handled this situation and others in a better manner so sponsors and their child are given enough time to make this a smooth transition.
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Alyssa, I am deeply sorry to hear that your young lady, Rahima, has left Compassion's program. I sincerely apologize for the way that we have notified you of Rahima leaving the program, and I’m so sorry for the abrupt end to your sponsorship of your sweet girl after you have spent many years investing in her life. Please know that your sponsorship has greatly impacted her life in ways that I’m sure she will never forget.

Regrettably,the maximum age that a child may stay in the Compassion program is 22 years old. On each child’s profile under “Schooling”, we provide a “Planned Completion Date” that is roughly around their 22nd birthday.However, this date is only an estimation because a child may be taken out of the program or choose to leave at any time. For example, a child’s family could take them out of the program because they are no longer interested, or the family could move away from the area where there are no Compassion centers available. In some cases the child may even graduate earlier than anticipated. Because of the fluidity of this estimated completion date, sadly, there is no way for us to give you a 6 month notice in advance. However, it is safe to assume that you will only have about 1 year left with your child if they will be turning 22. Rahima stayed in the program as long as she could which means that she has received the maximum benefit we can offer her. That is so great!

Please rest assured that may definitely still send Rahima a final letter to say goodbye. You may send this letter within three months after she has left the program. Since she left the program in August, you have up until November to send a final letter to Rahima. Even though you were not able to know which university she was attending due to privacy and security reasons,our wonderful field staff does indeed know where she is. Therefore, they will know exactly where to send your final letter to her :). We also do have this wonderful opportunity for some sponsors to continue corresponding with their children outside of Compassion once the child has left the program. If you are interested in learning more about this opportunity, we would be happy to send you additional information. Once you have read through the things to consider,you will have to option to release your personal contact information directly to her. Then, we would send this over to the field office of Tanzania, and it would be up to Rahima if she wants to reach out to you. Please let me know if you would like to learn more :).

Again, I am so sorry that the way we notified you of Rahima leaving the program did not meet your expectations. I cannot imagine the surprise and bittersweet sadness of having to say goodbye to the amazing young woman you have been developing a relationship with. Please know that we are incredibly grateful for the priceless impact you have made in Rahima’s life. Have a wonderful day.
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