Disappointed Letter

  • 1
  • Problem
  • Updated 2 months ago
  • Solved
Archived and Closed

This conversation is no longer open for comments or replies and is no longer visible to community members.

We just received a letter from our sponsored child and again we are disappointed. He is only 6 and apparently still not in school so we know that he is not copying something written on a school board. We understand his mother is assisting him but even those words are are very generic. We want to know WHAT GIFTS he received with our birthday and Christmas donations. We want to know from the mother that she actually received the extra money we sent to be given directly to her and we want an updated photo especially since we are sending extra. The generic words on his letter about praying he will “become a godly child who glorifying God and obeying my my parents” is rather annoying since we know he no longer has his father. We are sponsoring this child to learn about him, his home, his life, and not this generic stuff. So far this sponsoring experience is not what we expected and is disappointing.
Photo of Lana Browning

Lana Browning

  • 1 Post
  • 0 Reply Likes
  • disappointed

Posted 2 months ago

  • 1
Photo of Sierra

Sierra, Employee

  • 1341 Posts
  • 167 Reply Likes
Hi Lana! Thank you so much for reaching out to us. I am sorry to hear that your sponsorship experience has not lived up to your expectations so far, and I would be happy to address your concerns.

Even though Tian is not yet enrolled in school, he is attending the Compassion program, which means that his tutors there - or his mother - will be the ones assisting him in writing his letters to you. The school system and the Compassion program are different entities, and his school tutors wouldn't be assisting him with his letters to you.

As far as receiving an acknowledgement of what was able to be purchased with the funds you sent, I do see that he sent you a generic thank-you letter in December thanking you for the birthday gift you sent him in October ("Thank you so much for the gifts you have given to me."). You should expect to receive a similar letter for the family gift you sent in November any time within the next few months (it takes up to six months to receive an acknowledgement letter for a gift you send). Sadly, we cannot guarantee a list of items or a photo of what was able to be purchased will be included with any gift less than $60. I definitely wish we could send a specific thank-you and photo for every gift sent, but those are the parameters set in place by the program. However, any time you send a gift of $60 or more, you will receive a photo of your child with the gift that was able to be purchased, and there may also be some family members in the photo if the gift you sent was a family gift.

In his letter where he states “become a godly child who glorifying God and obeying my my parents”, he is most likely referring to all of his caregivers. Even though he does not live with his father, he does live with his mother, grandfather, and uncle. All of them play a maternal or paternal role in his life.

As you continue in your sponsorship relationship with Tian, I encourage you to consider letter writing your personal ministry to him. His responses may not be full of quality and value, especially while he is still this young and simply filling out form letters, you are still being a huge blessing in Tian's life. Children do not always know how to express their thanks or communicate their feelings, plans, and dreams, but we encourage you to keep feeding love into your child's life. We appreciate your patience and understanding regarding the letter writing process, and I pray you don't get discouraged! Please let us know if there is anything else we can do for you. 
Photo of Laura West-Baldwin

Laura West-Baldwin

  • 16 Posts
  • 13 Reply Likes
The Compassion employee above explained everything very well above, but as a 10 year plus sponsor I would like to encourage you to try and not become frustrated with the letters. I know at times when I was a very brand new sponsor I felt in similar ways as you. We always have to remember that these children and their families are from a totally different culture than us. We grow up learning how to write letters and it is something that we are accustomed to. I would also assume that in some cases even the parent (s) do not have a formal education leaving them doing the very best that they can. Please don't ever feel that what you are doing and what you are giving is not appreciated. Thank you for sponsoring this child and loving him.
Photo of Jennifer

Jennifer

  • 131 Posts
  • 157 Reply Likes
Laura, I liked what another sponsor said on another question, that she realized after beginning it wasn't so much a penpal relationship as a mentorship!  What an amazing thing to be able to influence someone elsewhere in the world and encourage them.  Years ago I was involved in a sponsorship in a very small organization.  In this case, the kids writing back was not much of the arrangement, but being young and idealistic, I sent letters and put a lot of effort into them.  The program only lasted a few years.  Because it was a small organization, I had the opportunity to drop a line and ask about the child when he was 16.  The kind person that answered informed me that I was "a very significant person in his life" and that he "loves you and prays for you".  That was very humbling.  Some of these kids have very unstable lives, and having someone show an interest in them and love them is a lifeline they really hold onto.  My effort wasn't much in the big scheme of things, but it sure meant a lot to him.  So now I go on faith in these relationships, and assume God will take care of the rest.
Photo of Laura West-Baldwin

Laura West-Baldwin

  • 16 Posts
  • 13 Reply Likes
As I have matured in my thinking, I have to realize it is more about them than me. God is using us as vessels and He will take care of them. Thank you for sharing this.
Photo of Jennifer

Jennifer

  • 131 Posts
  • 157 Reply Likes
Best wishes Lana -- sorry for hijacking your post.

This conversation is no longer open for comments or replies.