Do sponsored children in same church feel sad if they receive similar letters from the same sponsor?

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I have 2 sponsored children from the same church and have started writing to them.

My dilemma is currently wanting to wish the both of them the same wishes [eg. that they are healthy and that I pray for them regularly] and ask the same questions, and also mentioned some information about myself. But will they feel sad if the letter has similar sections?

I am only just starting to learn more about them but the bulk of my letter is still the same. "I am well, I hope you and your family are well." those kind of greetings.

Or should I try to paraphrase the other letter as much as possible? It will be difficult and take time to do so.
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William Blair

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I'm also a sponsor and now have two in the same project.  Just keep writing what you posted here. That will bless them more than you can know. I'm sure they won't mind the letters being similar. Just hearing from you is enough for them. You'll know what to say in your letters at the times you write to them. Are you a new sponsor? I've been doing this for 6 1/2 years and it still feels new to me so as time goes by this will get easier for you. Still challenging but easier.
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Gazimon X

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Relatively new I guess. I'm on my second letter to them. I drew both of them different animals based on what they answered on the form. I guess it will be easier after a few letters to write different things. They are around 7 to 8 too so I want to keep my sentences simple too, mirroring theirs. Thanks for your reply :)
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William Blair

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There are letter writing tips on the website you can use. Letter writing is not a part of their culture and is almost a thing of the past here in the U.S. Just receiving your letters is more than enough. I hope you can visit them someday. Worth the time, money and effort you invest.
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Hi Gazimon, 
I agree with William, in that as you continue to get to know your kiddos, God will give you the words to encourage them. Additionally, your children may, or may not share their letters with each other. So there is always a possibility that they do not even know you are saying very similar things in your letters. Regardless, I also agree with you both, that just writing to your children and getting to know these sweet kiddos, is such a blessing to them. You are changing their lives through these letters and it is just so exciting to see you making the effort to love on these children through letters! Keep up the good work, and I am sure that your letters will become easier as you continue to grow in your relationship with them! :) 
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Garry Sagel

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I agree with most of the above. I have two boys in Rwanda in the same center. I got them both when they were 5 and 6. I don't think they would even think about what might be in the other's letters. I don't even know that they are aware that I sponsor both of them. Younger kids aren't going to pay any attention. If you had two teenagers, I would say the chances are, they might compare notes. But, I don't think it is anything to worry about.
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Sometimes I worry that the letters I write are too long and complex for my little kids. I tend to forget how little they are. I am trying to do a better job of writing letters more fitting to their age, but I hope they have not been saddened or disappointed by my letters in the past. Can anyone give me advice? Do you guys think my kids might be upset with my letters so far?
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I had an idea last night and drew a picture which included what they drew on the letters given to me. I have 2 letters from each of them so it amounted to a few things: A house, a tree or flower, flag of their country, a kite, a sun. Compiled all of them into one scenic picture, and added figures of two people together playing. Hope it conveys my love and assurance that I have seen their drawings too and enjoy them. I coloured the objects the same colours they used to be sure.

If the letters are being translated into their native language, I think the teacher will help to try and explain to the children as well. The non-translated writing on the letters I get are very neat so I am sure it is from an adult.
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I have the same problem. I am struggling to write to little kids. I tend to forget how young they are and I pretty much write the samething to younger children and older children. I am thinking if I should do something different to younger ones.
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Hi Rebekah, I don't think your kids will be sad or disappointed by any of your letters!! I'm sure they're really excited to get your letters!! All my kids are pretty young and my letters are usually long. I used to write in a more conversational style to all my kids but this year I've been writing about animals and nature and then try to find a Bible verse that goes along with it. My first letter this year was about catfish and how Jesus wants us to be fishers of men then I sent one about snakes and now I'm working on a letter about armadillos. Maybe you can write about something like sheep or plants or rainbows or something like that for the younger kids. Just some ideas!
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Armadillos?! I want to read that one! :)  
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Andrea Watt

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Your kids will be happy they are getting letters as some sponsors don't write (which always makes me very sad) so don't worry about them being disappointed. They may not comprehend them at a young age but most sponsored children go back and re-read these letters. They are likely the only letters they will own. So the letters will match their understanding eventually. For now, if they are very young try to find an activity you have done that you got a picture of and write about that. I always try to get a picture of me doing something and then explain it. 
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I write to twins and I told them upfront that "Sometimes you will get the same letter as I want you to know the same things and other times you will get different letters because you are unique individuals".
The letters I send monthly are usually the same to both kids but if I have a lot to say one month I might tell half to one kid and half to the other and ask them to share.  I also tend to send two different photos of the same event if the letters are the same.  Reply letters to what they write are always personalized to them based on what they wrote me. 

As for writing longer letters to little kids, I do the same.  I send my kids the same monthly letter whether they are 3 or 22 years old.  I figure if they are really little, a parent/guardian/tutor will help them understand most of it and the other stuff the child can figure out when he/she is older and looking back on the letter.  I try to write for the middle ground age of about 10-13 and send that to all the kids.  They don't seem to mind
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Also, my 2 year daughter has a Compassion account and a correspondent too and she was SOOOO happy to get a letter from her Compassion child, even though she didn't understand half of it.
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Thank you for sharing, Teresa! You have some great, encouraging information! :)