Does my child read my letters and actually write back?

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The letters I receive are pretty much all the same.  No questions or statements I make are ever acknowledged or answered.  I called once to discuss this and the person answering read a script to me.  I think this is a program where someone writes me a standard letter once a month.  My child is basically an adult now so she should be able to write and answer questions.  I have been sponsoring this child for many years.  I thought as she got older it would change as she matured.  
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Jeanine Houk

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  • Frustrated and disappointed.

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Bre Boswell

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Jeanine,
I'm sure someone will get back to you at Compassion, however, I wanted to share my opinion as a sponsor for the past 18 months.  I have a wonderful little girl in Nicaragua, and I too was getting letters that were more form letters (she's 9 now). However, recently she started mentioning things that I had talked about in my letters like my sister's upcoming wedding. Now she doesn't directly answer every question, but indirectly has answered everything! I hope they can answer your question, but just know that they are definitely real kids.
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Jeanine Houk

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I agree they are real kids.  I have been getting pictures of mine since 2013, when I started sponsoring her.  She is changing and growing up.  But never does she respond to what I say in my letters.  Is she not interested? Doesn't understand? Does she not read them?  Who writes back without any response to my letters?
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Bre Boswell

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For some, writing is not a huge part of their culture so it is hard to grasp, even for the older ones. Also, sometimes they don't always have their letters with them. They are extremely special and many lock them away, and can't remember what you asked. I'm sure compassion will look into it for you, but what i found works is keeping the letters short, numbering/highlighting your questions. Also, I noticed that my child is usually responding to letters 2-3 months behind even though more have been delivered. 

Also, I have 6 correspondent children, and though I have been sending letters monthly, it has taken 4+ months for my first kid to write back, and it is most likely an introduction letter. It is all about encouraging the kids! The rest is just bonus!

Like I said, I'm sure Compassion will look into it for you. Just wanted to give my experience. 
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Andrea Watt

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One of my older kids never wrote anything very responsive, but I had another kid who answered every question I wrote in painstaking order I asked them. I think it might just be individual differences in the child.
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Hello Jeanine! 

Thank you so much for reaching out to us and bringing your situation to our attention. I did take a look at the letters from your child, Edvige, and they are all relatively similar. This is not uncommon, and like Andrea mentioned above, all children are very different when it comes to letter writing. Letter writing may be hard for Edvige and she may need some guidance as to what to write. 

I'll explain a little what a letter writing day looks like at one of our centers. The project staff leader will hand out stationary for the children who has recently received a letter from their sponsor. They might not have the previous letter that you wrote in front of them at that time, it may be at home, like Bre said, locked away in a special place. They may not remembered what you specifically said in the previous letter, and that might be why you are not receiving answers to your question. Again, like Bre mentioned, I would suggest highlighting, numbering or using bullet points when addressing the questions you have, this way the questions will stick out on the letter. 

I hope this give a little clarity for you Jeanine. Please let us know if you have any further questions regarding this and we will be happy to assist you!
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Hi Jeanine!
Could also be since you started sponsoring her and she was already 13 years old, she probably had more than one sponsor and has been hurt, disappointed and frustrated herself.  I'm thinking survival , protection mechanism that kicks in--- although one-to-one sponsorship is admirable, there are issues that arise .  Us sponsors have so much power in the relationship.  We can choose them and then choose to not sponsor anymore.  We can choose to send money as gifts or choose not too. 

I am sure many of the older kids in the program have had more than one sponsor ..... add that with their upbringing in poverty, knowing they are poor, limited options, not the same kind of opportunities or stimulation that is automatically provided for children who grow up with enough to eat,etc.

We are sponsoring the poorest of the poor.  Chances are your sponsor child will not break out of the poverty cycle... that is the sad truth but your sponsorship says you are doing something about the inequality in the world and that you are not standing by and just observing.

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