Experience with children who had previous sponsors?

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My child has had 1 previous sponsor that I'm aware of who never wrote to her :(

Ever since I've sponsored her, her letters have never been very detailed; they tend to say the same thing and she never answers any of my questions. Although I have noticed the past couple letters have been a bit more detailed; still no mention of my letters or answering my questions, but she is offering more info about herself and her life.

I'm just curious if this is common in children who have had previous sponsors and/or sponsors who didn't write to them?
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Kristina Helms

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Sarah Heacock Schreffler

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Most of my kids, no matter what age I got them, have received no or few letters from previous sponsors.  The most heartbreaking was the 19 year old who had never received a letter or a gift.
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Hi Sarah! That really is heartbreaking. :-( Thank you for all of the love and encouragement you are giving to these kids through your wonderful letters. 
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Leah, Employee

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Hi Kristina! First of all, I want to thank you for taking the time to write to Amina and for encouraging her in your letters. She may not be very expressive about her emotions and feelings, but I assure you that your letters and support are making a difference in her life. It is not uncommon for the children not to be expressive in their letters or to answer questions. They are not always encouraged in their environment to be expressive about their feelings and emotions. They are also not used to written communication. The letters that Amina is writing to you are probably the only time that she is communicating in writing to anyone. In our environment we are taught at an early age to communicate what our needs and emotions are. As we grow, we start using computers, writing letters, keeping journals and using phones to communicate with our friends and family. So, it comes naturally to us, but it is not natural to them.

Letter writing is scheduled as part of the program at the church. So, most likely when Amina is writing to you she does not have your letter in front of her to remember what questions you have asked. Often children receive their letters, take them home and keep them in a safe place. The instructors do help the children with ideas of what they can write to their sponsors. This is probably why you see she writes about generic topics and isn't responding to specific questions. I would encourage trying to make your questions as simple as possible, underlining them or numbering them. This way the questions will pop out more and the instructors can help to ensure she is responding to these questions. Continue what your doing and keep writing to her. You may see things change over time. I also suggest letting her know that you would like to get to know her on a deeper level and that you would like to have a relationship with her. Assure her that you are there for her and that she is important to you. Sometimes it just takes time and trust for a child to open up and be vulnerable. I hope this helps. :-)
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That is sad, Sarah! It appears my child also didn't receive any extra gifts :(
Thank you, Leah! I appreciate the insight and the suggestions and will definitely give those a try :)
Honestly, it doesn't bother me too much, because I'm not doing this just for the letters; but it definitely would be nice to have a deeper connection. I'll say though, that even though she may not be very "wordy", she is very good about writing consistently!
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I can't send all my kids gifts.  (And less still after this past weekend.Life happened) I hold onto hope that the letters is the most valuable.

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