Extremely concerned about our sponsorship and our child.

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Concerned that we have not had a REAL communication with our child.  We have been sponsoring our child for a couple years now.  We have sent letters, photos and funds to our child and her family.  As of this date we have NEVER received any information on what our gift monies were spent on for our child or her family.  We have never received a photograph except the staged one we received when we began the program.  Our child was very near to the epicenter of the Ecuador earthquake and we sent information to Compassion requesting to know the condition of her and her family and we were just told "if you hear nothing bad, she is okay".  We are beginning to be concerned if our funds are reaching our child or if we really have a child.  We have started getting emails instead of hand written letters.  The letters we do get say the same thing each time.  We have asked our child questions that are never answered, only get the same questions from her.  The only communications we have received recently is asking for more money and telling us she would like us to visit.  Is anyone else having these concerns?
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Linda, I have to echo Jennifer's comments. It has been a rough year with upgrades not going as planned and slowing down letters. My family and I sponsor several children (and have for several years now) and we correspond with 40+ more, so I have experience with Compassion. My 7 year old is even a correspondent, so yes I understand young children waiting for letters. I can assure you this is not a scam or a money pit. You are investing in your sponsored child's life and future. All letters have to be reviewed, even those going to English speaking countries, for proper content to protect our sponsored kiddos. Certainly, being a mom, you can agree that this is a priority. The letter system once fully functional will speed the process tremendously. I am anxious for that day as I have had correspondence slow down significantly from regular writers. You will know exactly how your gift money was spent. I always receive a thank you letter and photo when appropriate. Granted it is slower than usual these days but it will get better.

As far as development of relationships, that takes a while and also depends on your child. Some of my kiddos have been very open with me from the start, while some have been more reserved. I have a six year old in the Philippines who writes me sweet short letters and a 13 year old Hatian boy who's family members still write for him. I have another 13 year old Hatian boy who writes his own letters. So it varies widely from child to child and country to country. My Hatian kiddos (4 of them) are some of my most faithful writers, though letters have slowed. In my experience that over time letter writing becomes less of a foreign concept to these kiddos and most of them begin to open up more. I know however each are reading my letters because they now reference things I share with them, though due to translation they sometimes get confused on certain details. They sometimes ask the same questions, but that is okay with me because I know I have repeated questions to them too.

Sponsorship has been a lesson in patience for me and my family. That is a lesson we have failed miserably at times too! We have learned to wait and keep pouring love into these children who so desperately need encouragement and love. The reward has most definitely been worth the wait. I wish I could share some of my letters from my many kiddos with you so you could read for yourself how much our letters mean to these kiddos.

God bless!

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