Formatted letters by the kids, REALLY dislike them

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I have sponsored Nahum for 11 years. I went to visit him in El Salvador in 2006 and again in Oct. of 2011. I love that first letter I get after meeting my child. They are so shy and nervous that they can't say everything they want to, I get it in that first letter after the visit. I got that letter yesterday (after 6 months? that seems long!) And it was HORRIBLE. It was an introduction type letter. He told me about his family. I have pictures of his family, I know his family, I've met his mom! There was not one single word about my visit to meet him or how he felt about that. I was so hurt.
I know that many (if not all) of the projects are using "formats" for the kids to write. and that's what I got. It ignored the 11 year relationship, it ignored the fact we have met twice. I feel like this letter destroyed the relationship we had by ignoring it. It was a letter that I could have gotten from any one of the million sponsored kids and I got the same exact letter from 3-4 of my other kids--also ignoring our history and the fact I ALREADY knew that information.

I understand the formats for the younger kids, I understand it for the first 3-4 letters a child writes to his/her sponsor. But after that? NO WAY. In 11 years of being a sponsor and about 4 as an advocate, this is the first time I have something negative to say about Compassion. Compassion encourages a one on one relationship, building something meaningful. This form letter I got, made me feel like I didn't have a relationship with Nahum at all. Some sponsors already get upset when a question they ask in a letter doesn't get answered, how would a letter like this make them feel? I've never minded the unanswered questions, but this really hurt. And I don't blame Nahum, I know the "formats" are Compassion's idea.
I am going to Brazil in 35 days to meet the two boys I sponsor there, and if I get the same dumb letter from them afterwards, a letter that fails to acknowledge real life events, I will be devastated, just like I am now. I will probably only get one more letter from Nahum, he graduates in Oct. 2012 and that the second to last letter was a repeat of one of the first I got 11 years ago is upsetting. It's like the 11 years never even happened. It's like I just started sponsoring him a month ago. And that is not a good thing. On a side note on this topic, a couple of my kids had been calling me Mama Misty (which I loved!!) for years, the format seems to make them call me Ms. Misty Compton now, again taking the "relationship" part out of the picture.
Please get this information to someone who can do something about it. I love Compassion and I think it's one of the best programs around....but last week I would have given it a 9 out of 10, today, it's a 7 out of 10. And if all my kids letters continue to look like each other's instead of reflecting the individuals they are, I will not like that.
God Bless
Misty
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Shaina Moats

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Hi Misty! Thank you so much for giving your feedback. I have passed it along so it can be reviewed. I'm sorry to hear that you are disappointed with the letter writing recently, but certainly understand. Please know that we are working to resolve these issues in a way that benefits both the children in our program and sponsors.
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Thanks so much.
God bless

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