How (or if) to explain why I don't send family photos?

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In letters to my sponsored child, I've talked about my family (sister, niece, grandniece). But I've never sent pictures of them. I'm not allowed to send pictures in order to protect my niece and grandniece from an abusive former husband/father. I obviously don't want to tell my sponsored child about that. But I wonder if she thinks it strange that I send lots of pictures but never of my family, whom I've talked about. Do I need to explain why I never send their photos (or not?) and if so, how can I explain without "explaining"? Also, perhaps even more strange to her is that I've never mentioned the names of my family (for the same reason), yet I've mentioned friends by name. What do you suggest? My sponsored child is 5 1/2 years old. Thanks for any advice!
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Hi, Janet.

Honestly, I don't think your child would give this much thought, especially at 5 1/2 years old. If you're concerned about there ever being some perceived oddity in never mentioning their names, you could concider assigning them pseudonyms or possibly refering to them by initials or something. I used to work in a domestic violence center so I'm familiar with the concerns of your family. Really, though, I don't think the child will think twice about it because they're going to be enjoying the things you *do* include, not mulling voer the things you might not be.
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Lindsay, thank you for your reply. That really helps me. I had ruled out pseudonyms, but it never occurred to me I could use initials. I'll keep that in mind, but for now, I'll keep doing what I'm doing. Thank you for your advice and encouragement. God bless you.

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