I am barely staying afloat financially and don't want to abandon my child.

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I've sponsored my child for many years now. I graduated from college a few months ago and have a year of unpaid internship ahead of me. I lived with my parents for a while, but now I'm back on my own and I really can't afford my sponsorship. 
I honestly don't even have $45 in my bank account and my payment is due next week. I missed last month's payment.

I can't find a job and I don't even know if I'm going to be able to stay afloat myself. I've read on other forums that there is a 6 month program, but I honestly don't have any money at all right now and I don't know when I will.

I've come to the realization that I may have to cancel my sponsorship and am absolutely heartbroken. 
Is there a way that compassion can accumulate my debt and I can pay it off next year when I'm certified and have a job?

If that isn't possible...
I have a few questions about what happens to the children that can't be sponsored anymore. 
Will she and her family suffer because I can't help anymore, or will she be picked up by someone else?
If she isn't picked up by another sponsor is there a way for me to sponsor her again when I have a job?
Will I be able to write to her afterward? if not Will I be allowed to write to her to say goodbye?

I just...really need proof that she's gonna be okay and it's eating me up that there's no way to get that. 
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Teresa Dawn

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Emily, Compassion will be by to answer some of the financial questions for you soon I'm sure but one thing important to know, your child will miss you and your letters but she will not suffer any physical hardships if you do have to end the sponsorship.  She would still receive all the benefits she had before, which are covered by donations through another compassion Fund, until she is able to receive a new sponsor.  She will be made available for sponsorship again and if she has not found another sponsor and is still in the program, you would be welcome to re-sponsor her (Just hang onto her ID# to make it easier for Compassion staff to help you find her again later) 
You are not able to write to a child while you do not sponsor her, but you could write a goodbye letter.
If you have any family/friends that are willing to cover her sponsorship for awhile too and let you be a correspondent sponsor to her, that could be an option as well so you could still write.
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Emily, it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now and I am so sorry that you are struggling :(. I know that coming out of college can be a stressful time trying finding a stable job especially when you are also doing an internship program. It breaks my heart that you may have to make this difficult decision because I can tell you have built a strong bond with your child and truly care about her, and I don't want to have to see you discontinue. I will definitely be praying that you find a job soon that works with your internship schedule. I certainly want to address your concerns and I appreciate that you want to ensure she is going to be taken care of in the event you do need to discontinue. 

If you find that you are going to have to cancel your sponsorship, I will make Kibe available for another sponsor right away and we will work very hard to find her another sponsor as quickly as possible. While she is waiting for a sponsor, she is still going to receive benefits from Compassion's program and be taken care of just as Teresa kindly explained. Although you will not be able to maintain correspondence with her, you are welcome to write her one last time to say goodbye by writing, 'Final Letter' at the top of your note. When your situation improves and you get back on your feet, we are happy to see if Kibe is still available for sponsorship at that time but we cannot guarantee that she will be available. 

I have stopped your automatic donations today so that your support does not come out if you don't have any funds in your account. I see that you are giving an extra $7 each month to our HIV/AIDS Response Fund which increased your rate to the $45 when you began your sponsorship. We could remove this to reduce your rate permanently to $38 but I'm not sure if that would help in your situation. As you may have seen in other forums, we would be more than happy to work with you in a short term situation. Regrettably, we do need some sort of support for your child in order to maintain the sponsorship while you're interning. Like Teresa mentioned, one thing to consider would be to find a friend or family member to help you with the support for your child until you can maintain it by yourself again. Another option we can look into that may help you out, would be for Compassion to cover your support for the months of August through November. Hopefully this would relieve you of the burden to make up the months missed and give you time to find a job or someone to co-sponsor with you, and we could re evaluate your situation again in December. You certainly know your situation better than I do however, and it is important that you're also able to support yourself during this time. Please let me know if this is something you might be interested in and I will update your account. If not, please let me know and I will make Kibe available for another sponsor. 
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Brianna Elizabeth Farr

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My suggestion would also be to see if any of your friends/family are interested in helping you out. That is what I do and it works pretty well! Praying for you as you start a new stage in life! God will provide, one way or another. 
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Friends,
Thank you all for your suggestions. I took to facebook and gofundme and asked my friends and family to help. I got an email from Compassion that someone donated 6 months of sponsorship for me and that Compassion would generously meet their donation. 
If that person is reading this please know that you have taken so much stress off my shoulders, and that I thank you from the bottom of my heart! You are absolutely amazing and I don't know what I would do without you.
A huge thank you goes to Compassion as well .You guys are wonderful, both in the help you've given me and what you do for the world. Thank you for your continued efforts to bless the babies of the world in Jesus' Name! 
Hugs and Kisses to all of y'all!
Emily
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Emily, thank you so much for your encouragement. You have a beautiful heart and I am so excited that you are able to continue supporting your child! We are blessed to partner with our brother's and sister's in Christ who live out the gospel not only in the lives of these precious children but also for each other. Jesus called us to love one another as He loves us and I am encouraged to be able to see this in action through our sponsor's every day! God bless you and I will continue to pray that your internship goes well and you find a job soon :). 
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I am so glad that everything worked out for you Emily. It is so obvious how deeply you love and care for your sponsored child and my heart was aching for you.  I know that I would feel the same way if I were in your situation and I am thankful that the Lord answered your prayers and provided a kind soul to help out.  May God bless you and your dear sponsored child, and may the kindness of the unknown benefactor never be forgotten.
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Brianna Elizabeth Farr

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Amen! I am so glad to hear this!

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