I just found out that my child's mother recently passed away. How can I help her?

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I just found out that my sponsored child's mother passed away in April. She has no father and now is being raised by her sister who is 15. My heart is broken for her and I want to know how I can help them. She says the "project" is helping them but I don't know what that means. Are these children adoptable? How do I know if her two siblings have sponsorships?
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Laura Prosser Brosius

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Adam

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Laura, I'm so sorry to hear that your child lost her mother and that she is now without both of her parents. It's heartbreaking enough just to think about children living in poverty and even more so to think about these children living without their mother and father. Regrettably, that's the reality for many of the children that Compassion serves through their programs. God bless your kind heart for caring so much about your sponsored girl and her siblings. It's plain to see how much you love them. I know that I would be thinking about adoption too if I were in your situation, but I don't believe that Compassion facilitates the adoption of the children who are orphaned in their program. Please rest assured, though, that your child is in good hands with the Compassion staff and what your child is referring to when she says "project" is the child development center that she attends through Compassion and the staff there who are now helping to watch over her and her siblings and take care of them. Since the need is so great in the areas where Compassion works I believe that they are only able to enroll one child per family into their program and so your child would be the only sponsored child in the family.

I would just like to encourage you that you are already helping these children more than you realize because these kids probably look to you as a mother figure now in their lives and so your sponsorship and your letters of loving encouragement, support, and advice will mean so very much to them now and in the years to come. If you would also like to help them by sending them a financial gift then you are always welcome to do that as well. You can give up to $200 a year to your child, $100 for their birthday and $100 as a general gift, and you can also send a "family gift" of up to $1,000 per year which would also be going directly to meet the needs of your sponsored child and her siblings. Please know that your child will always receive 100% of the gifts that you give them and the staff at the center that your child attends will meet with your child and her sister and help them to use the money in a wise way which helps to best meet any needs that they may have.

Again, I'm so sorry to hear of this loss in your child's life. I pray for comfort and peace and security for these children and for wisdom for your child's older sister who is now caring for the two little ones even at such a young age.
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Laura, this would be such difficult news to receive as a sponsor and my heart breaks for Hirpeshi and her siblings as I cannot imagine losing your mother at such a young age. Adam made some very good points is absolutely right that your sponsorship is an even greater blessing to Hirpeshi now, knowing that she will be cared for by the center staff and surrounded by a church body that loves her deeply and will watch over she and her siblings. Depending on the resources that the center has available, they may be providing extra groceries or needed items for Hirpeshi and her siblings, and possibly helped with funeral costs for her mother. The center will often provide the child with some type of counseling if needed to help her in the grieving process.

Because our most recent update of Hirpeshi was done in February of this year, it sounds like you must have found this information out in a letter from your girl. If you're able to send us a copy of the letter you received from your girl, I can verify the passing of her mother, with our office staff in Ethiopia and ensure she's doing alright and can be properly cared for by her sister. Please email it to me at socialmedia@compassion.com and I'm happy to look further into the situation for you. God bless and I'm praying for you and your precious girl right now.
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Laura Prosser Brosius

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Thank you so much for the response and information, Adam and Emily. It was both helpful and comforting to know that she is being well taken care of. Emily, I will send an email asap with a copy of the letter. Thanks for following up on Hirpeshi. God bless you both!

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