Is my child authentic/genuine? She doesn’t seem to know me...

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I’ve been Sponsoring Jennifer for 3 years now.... Over the years I’ve sent both Letters and Pictures of my growing family (husband, daughters, pictures of my pregnant belly)

And in my most recent letter from her on the back section “I also want to tell you” she asks... “Do you have children? A Pet? A husband? Are your children Big?”

Why would she ask me these questions if for the last 3 years she has been getting my letters and pictures??? This made me very sad and skeptical. She is the second child I’ve sponsored. My first mysteriously left the program they weren’t sure why... and now her asking these questions made me feel like she’s not getting my correspondence or she’s not real!
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Felicia Swanson

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Michelle Rockholt

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How old is your child? I sponsor 3 children of different ages, and the youngest doesn't always remember what I wrote. She might also have a learning disability which affects her understanding. My two oldest children keep up a continuous conversation with me, but the youngest often asks questions that he has asked before. Remember... they are disadvantaged children. I have done extensive research on this organization, and they are sincere. Just be patient, and pray for her. Eventually, she might gain more understanding and memory of your communication.
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Hi Felicia! I'm so sorry to hear that you are skeptical of your child and the authenticity of the letters you're receiving. Michelle brings up a good point here. Oftentimes, younger children don't really know what to write in letters, and they also may have forgotten what you said in your last letter when they sit down at their center to respond to you, so they may just follow the prompts their tutor gives them. I've been sponsoring the same young man for about five years now, and even though he's now 11, he still writes a lot of the same generic greetings and responses in his letters, but there's another child I've only been corresponding with for less than a year who writes beautifully detailed letters, sends great responses to all of my questions, etc. Would you please provide me your child's ID number, or your sponsor number? I would be happy to look further into this situation, but sadly, I couldn't find an account associated with your email address you provided.
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Felicia Swanson

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Thanks she is 8 now 5 when we started. I guess my image I’ve always had in my head was the kids have the pictures I send printed off and decorating their desk or wall by their bed. Haha. That’ probably a flawed view. I think I saw that somewhere where a kid had pictures of their sponsor taped up by their bed. So I guess I pictured her “treasuring” our family pictures and watching the family grow. But I do understand she was very young when I started sponsoring her. It’s been cool to see her drawings get better and better and her handwriting improve.
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theresa angeletti

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I forget that 5-8 are still very young. I write to a lot of kiddos and you dont start getting in depth subjects or replies until they get a bit older. Writing isnt a natural fit in sone cultures so they get more talkative as they get older! They know you and love you so much for your 3 years of correspondence and pictures. If you can someday- go visit them- it is life changing and they roll out the red carpet because you actually came to meet them!!!
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Felicia, thank you for providing Jennifer’s number. I have looked at her letters to you, and I see that her letters are pretty normal for a kiddo of her age. We are so grateful that you responded to God tugging at your heart to sponsor sweet Jennifer! I hear your heart for this ministry and your desire to foster a relationship with your child. Please know that our desire is for every sponsor to have this opportunity to develop a meaningful relationship with their child. Children under the age of 9 typically use our form letters because it is easier for them to understand the concept of writing and to fill in the blanks. Sadly, many children feel timid or have a lack of confidence when it comes to writing. It is also quite common for children to be behind in their schooling due to a lack of opportunity or funds to pay for school fees. Please rest assured that Jennifer receives every single letter you send, and I’m sure she truly cherishes receiving them and your pictures. This letter asking about your children may have been due to suggestions from her tutor like Sierra said, or she may have simply forgotten momentarily. As Jennifer gets older, you will begin to see her write her own letters without the assistance of a tutor, and she may be able to have a more regular back-and-forth conversation with you. Theresa made a great point as well! It isn’t cheap whenever travelling outside of the country, but if you can, I encourage you to meet your beautiful girl in person someday! You can learn more about that here: cint.us/visits. Please let us know if you have any additional questions or concerns. Have a blessed day!
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Jennifer Huls

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I'm actually having the same issue and my child is 20.  Could you send a picture?  right after I sent one.  That's probably the most concerning thing one could read after sending pictures several times. "I got your picture" is pretty simple and would alleviate a lot of doubt.  
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Hi Jennifer! I'm so sorry to hear of the doubts you're having regarding your sponsorship, and would be happy to bring some clarity. What Michelle said is correct about your child not receiving your letter before they write you; it looks like the letter Claudy wrote to you asking for a picture was written on November 14th, which is about two weeks after you sent him the letter with your picture. Letters usually take about 4-6 weeks to be delivered, so Claudy probably simply hadn't received your photo yet. I would encourage you to see what he says in his next letter, as he should have received your photo at that point! Thank you so much for investing in Claudy's life.
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Gina Villasenor

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Is there any other way to contact the kids I will sponsor ?
I want my kids to have a closest relationship and learn different points of view and living
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Is there any other way to contact the kids I will sponsor ?
I want my kids to have a closest relationship and learn different points of view and living
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Sarah, Official Rep

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Hi Gina! Thank you so much for your desire to see wonderful relationships built through your sponsorships! Regrettably, the only way for your children to be in contact with your Compassion kids is through the letters they will write back and forth. Compassion does not allow sponsors and children to contact each other outside of the letter correspondence for safety and child protection concerns. 
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Michelle Rockholt

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I have three children, and I can assure you that they are real. Mine are teenagers, and when they write they respond to my questions and make comments about what I say. I've even been asked advice by them, and they also tell me the issues they are having that they would like me to pray about. Some children might not get your letters before they write theirs and might not have the picture at that time.