Letters seem fake.

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We are starting to doubt that our child receives and replies to our letters. His letters are always generic and questions are never answered.
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Laura Wuestner Anthony

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  • sad... hoping he gets our money

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Andrea Watt

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Until 2 of mine graduated I had met all of my kids in person. They are all real, some kids just aren't good at writing letters. I certainly wasn't when I was 8 and my Mom made me write thank you notes.
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The children in the sponsorship program are the poorest of the poor.  The sad reality is that the majority  of them won't be breaking out of the cycle of poverty.... that's who we are all writing too.  But we can give them hope and love from Christ which is why writing regardless of their answers is what counts.  WE are essentially serving and loving just as Jesus taught us too.
We sponsor 2 children( Julien in Burkina Faso, age 7 and Megan in Bolivia who is 11 years old ). 
Suggestion that worked for us to start a relationship and get the kids in writing and being more responsive:
We started the sponsorship 2 years ago and wanted a relationship with both so I essentially flooded them with letters --- 6-10 letters a month with lots of photos-- introducing them to my family, my city, my friends, favorite foods, photos of us holding up their letters and pictures,etc.  Yes... sounds like overkill but we figured.... ok... how is letter writing realistically going to work especially when these kids living in poverty are up against so many obstacles?  

Julien is younger and has not attended school yet but we can tell from his letters that his tutor writes that he is interested in our lives and is asking questions about what we wrote although not always--- but he is also responding by copying what we write about.... so if we write about our friends,.... he begins to tell us about his.... There is no running water or electricity in his household.

Megan from Bolivia... we can already tell she is above average in her studies from her writing and opening up about her life-   we are beginning to see the change in her spiritually and emotionally as the area she is from, the Project director wrote us a letter that many of the children she cares for suffer from unstable family lives because of alcohol and parents just not being present for the children because of "parties".  So I think somehow, are letters and the volume of them are building trust and security for these kiddos.  

We also have the opportunity to give gifts as sponsors.  So, we have sent family and birthday gifts to them regularly to just show them more love.  Not to sound like we want to buy their friendship or a relationship..... but with the reality that how do we have a relationship and build on one when we are thousands of miles away and the possibility of us meeting are slim?   I understand that as sponsors, we are the ones essentially who have the power and control---- we have the dollars and we have the choice to love and to give it unconditionally. 
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I really love this "Choice to love and to give it unconditionally"  I keep having to tell myself the same thing.  "It's not about me. It's about (Daniel,Diganto,Yesmyn, Andreina... insert child's name here)" Encouraging them. Reminding them of God's love and that there is someone else in the world who loves them.

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