Mentioning the death of a loved one?

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My dad is close to death. He has pancreatic cancer. He has between 2 weeks to a few months left. I have mentioned my dad a few times to my correspondents. When he is brought to Heaven, should I mention this to them? If so how should I approach it, especially for the little ones? Thanks in advance.
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I told my kids a couple times when I have had loved ones pass away.  I didn't want to use fancy/flowery language as I wasn't sure if it's be translated right.  I simply said, "Please pray for my family.  We are sad right now because my grandpa died."
The kids wrote back they were sorry to hear it and that they were praying. 
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I am sorry for what you are going through, Christy. My dad just died in September. For the ones who "knew" my dad through my letters/photos, I did tell them when he died, and I asked them to pray for my mom and for us. I didn't go into detail, but for the older kids, I did touch on the spiritual aspect too and shared a comforting Scripture (Revelation 21:4). I've just started getting replies, and they have been sweet-- saying that they are sorry; they are praying; and they hope my dad is with God.
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Christy, my heart breaks for you as a loved one passing away is not easy to go through in itself and it can be tough to know how to communicate it to a child.  Please know that you do not have to tell them if it's too difficult. But you're certainly welcome to tell them in as much or as little detail as you feel comfortable with as many of the children in our program are familiar with losing someone close to them whether it be family or a friend. As Teresa and Laura both mentioned, these children really do want to lift their sponsors up in prayer as well as support and encourage you during these difficult times. I know if you told them, you would have a family, and possibly entire community in prayer for your situation. I'm lifting you up in prayer and I'm confident that Holy Spirit will give you the words to say so that you can gently tell your child.
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When my husband's mother died last summer, we shared the news with our sponsored kiddos and have received some of the sweetest letters from them, many offering prayer, hope, and comfort in their own way.  So many of them know what it is like to lose someone they love and in many ways I think it helps them to feel closer to us knowing that we too have hurts and struggles in our lives.  May God bless you and your family in this days and weeks again, giving you many sweet moments with your dad. 
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Thanks so much everyone, I appreciate the responses! God bless!
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Hi everyone, I wanted to let you know that my dad has passed away peacefully on Wednesday surrounded by his loved ones.I thank everyone for their prayers.
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Christy, we will absolutely be praying for you and your family as you grieve the loss of your father. I personally know how hard it is to lose your dad to cancer, so I am cyber sending lots of extra love and prayers your way! I'm praying that the Lord comforts you though this loss and brings you through tough times ahead. He's close to those with breaking hearts, and will help you find strength and joy in Him even in this circumstance. I'm always grateful that in every struggle, the Lord's mercy and steadfast love reigns. I pray that he reminds you of that every day.
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Christy, I am so sorry for your loss. Continuing to pray for your family during this difficult time.

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