My child never replies to any questions I posed in my letters to her.

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I never receive responses to questions I ask Larah, age 8. I’m concerned at just how legit this all is. I send money for Christmas & Birthday gifts and never hear what she received.
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Sarah Heacock Schreffler

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I rarely receive direct answers to questions I get.  I have received very complete thank yous for gifts sent (Though Christmas gifts are more likely to be more generic "Thank you for the gift"  For a gift of $20 I got this in a letter "He says thank you for the gift he bought a beautiful paid of shoes and a shirt to go to school.")  For a gift of $100 (Which comes with a picture) to a different child I got more detail "which enabled the family to buy 4 iron sheets 100,000 each at 25000=, Labour for building kitchen 17000=, 5 poles for raising walls 50,000 each at 10,000, 6 poles for making a roof at 30,000 each at 5000=, nails for poles 1kg at 5000, nails for iron sheets 1/2 kg for 3500=, goat for 100,000=, dress for 40,000 and sweets for 100="  If it has been 6 months since you sent the gift and you have not received a thank you, email social media at compassion and they can send an inquiry to get the details.  I've had to do that on occasion.  Ah and here's a thank you for the Christmas gift "I want to thank you for the letter and Christmas gift".

While I do not get answers to questions, per se, I definitely get kids mentioning things I discussed in previous letters in their letters on occasion.  Some kids are better about this than others. Sometimes even to tell me what I write about scares them :( "Thank you for telling me about volcanoes and their stories. Volcanoes scare me a little bit. I'm glad that everything is back to normal after the eruption."  But here's another response from a different child, I think to the same information (sometimes it can be hard to tell) "He says he likes a lot your story."  
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Hi Holly! I'm so sorry for the disappointment that's been caused by your kiddo's lack of response to your questions. :( I understand that can be frustrating, and greatly appreciate the commitment you are making to bless Larah with your letters, despite her lack of response to your questions. The project staff does an excellent job teaching the children how to respond to letters. However, keep in mind, children may not have their most recent letter with them when they reply. This means they may have forgotten questions that were asked in a previous letter. These children also communicate verbally; letter writing tends to be a foreign concept to most of them. I would suggest highlighting your questions in your next letter. This will draw the project staff's attention to the questions, and usually helps with the communication process. I would also encourage you to give the relationship time to grow! I started sponsoring a young man in Kenya when he was six years old, and it took until he was eleven to start responding to questions I would ask him and really start being involved with his letters.

In regards to gifts, if you send a gift of at least $60, you should always receive a photo of what was able to be purchased with the gift; if you send any amount less than that, you should at least receive a letter saying "Thank you for the gift." As Sarah pointed out, the details that the child may or may not give you in that thank you letter depends on that child.

I hope this helps; please let us know if you have any other questions we can address for you!