My child was sponsored by someone else while I was trying to get set up!

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I was just informed (after trying for a week to get answers) that my child I sponsored at an event was allowed to be sponsored by someone else :( Now I have to tell my daughter the little girl she was excited to become friends with is no longer going to be the girl she writes to and all the pictures she drew and letter she wrote need to thrown away. Of course we can look for another little girl, but it won't be the same, at least for a while. I wonder how this even happens when I brought the card home me? Now, I was told an account was created and a sponsor # has been given to me but when I went to set up my online account that isn't working. It says my information is invalid! This is just very frustrating and upsetting. Is this normal? Is this what I can expect if I do decide to sponsor another child?
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Jennifer Cheri Usquiano

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KristenH, Champion

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:( Oh Jennifer I am so sorry. As another sponsor, I can only imagine how frustrating this would be as your first experience . Im not sure if anyone told you, but all of the packets at the events have an expiration date. If they don't get returned in time to Compassion, new packets are printed for the kids who didn't get matched to a sponsor. It sounds like this may have happened to you and I am so sorry if that is the case. :(
I know it's something you'll have to grieve and work through, but if you do choose to sponsor another child I want to encourage you that by sponsoring on the website it's a much smoother process without the headache of hoping your sponsor card gets mailed back in time. I've never lost a child through website sponsorship.
There are a lot of cute kiddos on the website. Maybe you and your daughter can look together....find a birthday buddy or a child with the same name. Again, I am so sorry this happened. :( As someone who volunteers at events I hate to see this type of thing happen because I know how attached people get to their kiddos from the moment they pick up that packet.
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Jennifer Cheri Usquiano

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Thank you for the kind words! It's truly how amazing how quickly you become attached to these kids! After 3 weeks of looking at her picture and wondering what she is doing and how excited she will be to read our letters it really is heartbreaking. I know she was a priority child and had been looking for a sponsor for a very long time so I am happy she will have someone to bring that smile on her face, just difficult to think it won't be me and my daughter.
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Denise Bailey

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I am another sponsor and I am so sorry this happened to your little girl.  It takes about two to three weeks to be registered if you turn the paper work in at an event so I don't understand if you mailed it in during that time frame it seems the little girl would have still been on hold.  I never sponsor at events because I am a person that likes things to happen fast and the fastest way to sponsor is online.  Perhaps tell your daughter God had another plan and He has another child for her.  I would recommend sponsoring in either an English speaking country:  Uganda, Kenya, Ghana or a Spanish speaking country.  The reason for the English speaking is pretty obvious but the Spanish speaking countries might not be as obvious.  I have been sponsoring for over 15 years and the letters are better.   You can also look online for what we call in sponsoring circles "a birthday twin."  I found a child for each of my kids when they were young that had the exact same birthdate even to the year so they were exactly the same age.   If you are on Facebook there are also private Facebook groups for Compassion sponsors so be sure to look into that.  You can request to be added on this forum.  By better letters I meant they seem to be more frequent and generally translated better in my opinion.
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Jennifer Cheri Usquiano

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I wish now that I would have just brought the card home with me that day and done it online. I just thought it was a sweet idea to have my daughter drop the card in the bin since she is the one who gravitated towards Yasenia. I will ask my daughter if she wants to wait and see if Yasenia will come up for sponsorship again in a month or if she wants to find another friend. It will break my heart if we choose to move on and then find out her sponsorship fell through. She has been waiting for such a long time already!

Thanks for the tip about which countries have the bestresponse times. I will definitely be looking into sponsoring from my husbands home country of Peru. We all speak, read and write the language and it will give my daughter a friend from where her papa is from!
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Denise Bailey

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I sponsor a boy in Peru and he is such a sensitive wonderful boy!  I love the idea of sponsoring in a country that your husband is from and you can share real stories with your sponsor child from your hubby's childhood!   What fun!
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Jennifer Cheri Usquiano

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That is so cool that you sponsor a boy in Peru! I definitely want to sponsor a child from Peru for those reasons!
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Hi Jennifer! I just sent you an email explaining this situation, but in case you have not read it yet, I was able to pull some stings and get this little girl on your account. Again, I know this was emotional and I am so sorry for the confusion and for our error that caused this. I am so happy that you and your little girl will be able to bless this young lady! :) 
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Wooooohoooooooooooo!!!!! FABULOUS!!!!! Yaaaaaaaaaay, Shannon!!!! :) 

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