No letters for 6 months

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According to the communication history in my account, tomorrow, May 16, will be 6 months since a letter was logged from our sponsored child Joel in Uganda. If you look at the dates on all his letters, there's a clear pattern of only writing every 5-7 months, although three letters were written in one week when we requested an inquiry this time last year.

I write to Joel frequently, so I thought he'd write more than twice a year. Does Uganda not have reciprocal letter writing? I just don't understand why there are so few letters from him compared to all our other children. Should I lower my expectation and just accept that kids at his project only write twice a year?

It has occurred to me that maybe he just doesn't want to write. I don't want Joel to be made to write letters if he doesn't actually want to. I just want to understand what is happening here.
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So glad to hear you are having a good experience with the rest of your children. I also had a similar experience, and shared your feelings of not wanting the child to be forced to write. I'll be interested to see the response.
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I'm in the same boat with a child from Uganda...  I don't want to force her to write because she has many responsibilities, but I guess I expected more from an older teen.
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Likewise. I get regular letters from middle-aged children, but when I had an older teen they did not write. Do you have other ages that you sponsor, and get more letters from?
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We sponsor and correspond with kids from age four to 14, with a few older but more recent additions to the family whom we don't expect to hear from for another few months. Joel is right in the middle age wise, at eight years old. He's our only child from Uganda though, so I wonder if it's just a Uganda thing.

Before the recent change in how letters are processed, we were hearing every two months from many of our kids. Our Bolivian children, ages 10 -14, have been particularly faithful in their communications. There seems to have been a pause in letters for us lately from most of our kids, but I'm thinking the letters are just taking a while to process. Joel is the only one with an obvious pattern of 5-7 months between letters.
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Rachel, I'm sorry you don't hear from Joel very often. Uganda has the same letter guidelines as the rest of our countries and they also do recipricol letter writing. You're right that not all children enjoy sitting down and writing a letter just depending on the season of life that they're in. But please know that this does not mean he doesn't appreciate your letters. Children LOVE hearing from their sponsors and your letters are uplifting and motivating and God's using you in special ways in his life. He'll be able to look back on these letters when he's discouraged or growing weary or even questioning if he's loved. Your letters remind him that he is loved and that you and Jesus believe in him! It's very possible that Joel is a busy boy with school, chores, or other activities but you should still be receiving responses to the letters that you write. 

I'm going to send an inquiry to our office in Uganda and request that he write you a letter. However, I'm going to talk to them about also having the staff work more closely with him to help him in responding to the letters that you faithfully send to him and see if there's a specific reason that he is not writing as often. Thank you for continuing to write him and encourage him so often!

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