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Hi ladies, so I've been meaning to ask... what's going on with the older children that need sponsors. On the compassion main page, as well as my account it's asking to sponsor an older child. Has there been just a big influx of older kids?

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Audrey

P.s. you guys ROCK! :-)
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I've been wondering the same thing also. When I worked an even about a month ago, I was on the site, and we saw in Africa teen girls who had been waiting over a year for a sponsor!

I've been talking with teens and telling them how cool it is to sponsor some one their age, so they can grow together, and graduate together. Also, in their low times when people are picking on them, or their home/school life isn't going as ideally as they want... they will know they are making a difference in someone elses life, therefore their life has sigificant meaning! They all love that idea! They also love the idea of a youth group sponsoring a teen. So, many cool ways to get a youth to sponsor.

I got great responses going on the web with the kids and showing them the site and letting then "Pick" a child that way. Many grabbed their parents, and kids got sponsored that way.

I'm an advocate, and I'm not a traditional advocate in any way! LOL! I use the site instead of the cards... Many sign up next to me on their moble device! LOL!! I love it!

But, I will start focusing on teens more! I have a daycare so our family/daycare goes with the "littles!"

Keep me posted on this!

Jennifer
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I think people are naturally drawn to those adorable little faces and the older, sometimes awkward looking (as the mom of a 14 year old boy, trust me - they're awkward) faces get bypassed. I personally love teens and love sponsoring teens but I think sometimes Compassion just has to push them a bit so they don't get overlooked.
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If I was able to financially sponsor more, I'd definitely take on more older kids. They're a joy to correspond with but, like so many other, when I log on and see a bunch of cute faces I'm scooping up all the little ones. I definitely tend to feel the most pull to sponsor in like the 5yo range. It occurred to me the other day that al some point in the (distant) future, practically all my kids are going to gone at the same time. Literally, like 20+ in a year or two. Anyway, back on the topic, thinking back on the kind of random sponsorships I picked up, they almost all tended to be kids that were on the first page when logged in. I'd see their face and it would stick with me, then I'd go back later and find them. I understand why, from a marketing perspective at least, it would be best to keep all the super cute little ones up front. If the older ones were all the first ones to be viewed, though, it might get them sponsored more.
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Kristen that makes sense, if I had it my way all my sponsored kids would be teenagers, but my baby of the family Achola stole my heart, she's 5 years old and lives with 6 siblings and her mom is a single mom. I try to pick kids who are orphaned or who have a large number of children. Between Acholas story and her adorable smoochable face, I couldn't say no. My 8 year old is my 8 year Olds sponsored child so they can grow up together, and then I have my 11 year old, and 14 year old... some of my correspondent kids will be MINE if their sponsors stop. Like Ragavan, he's almost 18, and he's so my son! He calls me mom, but he looks like he's in his late 20s lol
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Last time I set out to sponsor a new child I was looking at the older kids but, of course, a little face caught my eye and I read that she lives with "friends". Her parents are both deceased and she's not even living with relatives. So I had to sponsor her! But now I have my eye on an 18 year old and if he's still there on Monday I am excited to start sponsoring him! My kids are scattered in age because many of them are correspondence kids and I tend to let Compassion just randomly assign those for me (although last time I did ask for a teen). Love those older kids! My daughter is 20 and has been sponsoring a girl from Indonesia who is one year younger than her since she was 13. It's been so cool to watch them grow up together. My daughter does child care for a living and we recently found out that her sponsored girl is in college studying early childhood care :-) 
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Oh my word that is amazing!!!!! I'm so excited for my daughter a d Emebet to grow up together!
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They have had sponsors in the past and have been dropped.Some have had 2-3 sponsors before.Some of my sponsor kids have been dropped. It's like God has placed me here to stay with them until they leave the program. If anyone needs someone to walk along side them it's teenagers. How can we forget what that was like for us.
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William that's exactly how I feel. My 14 year old has already had 3 sponsors! Well I'm the last sponsor she will ever have!

I wish someone would have been by my side as a reen, and if I can be that person to these kids I will be!
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Audrey. A great book to read is Just A Minute by Wess Stafford,former Compassion president. You can find it on Amazon. Our letters to them sure makes a difference like it does for us when we receive their letters.
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Hi Audrey! Others who have responded in this conversation are exactly correct. It is very hard to find sponsors for the older children. This is why we periodically help bring awareness to this issue and find sponsors for the older children. :)
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Thanks Susan! One reason I'm requesting teens for correspondents. I wish I had more money to spare!!! I'd be swooping up teens left and right! Show them they can count n someone and they are loved by God and me!!!
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When I was in my early 20's and got my first permanent job, I started to sponsor kids (through another organization back then). I asked for 2 from India. One was a cute boy - he's 42 years now!! The other was an older girl - almost 49 now!! The girl wasn't cute at all, and her letters were repetitious, and I really wanted to replace her with a cuter child. But I kept her until her graduation, sending many letters and prayers her way. She was replaced with another cute boy (now 40 years old)! But God left an impression on my heart to sponsor the older girls, the not-so-cute ones who need a few more years to graduate, who are at-risk for trafficking and exploitation! Since that time, I have been faithful to sponsor many many older girls from India and Africa, especially those who seem vulnerable. I have had amazing correspondence with them, and their prayers bless me so much! Certainly the "cuter" kids are sponsored faster, but the older kids are such a tremendous treasure to sponsor!!
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I am not sure what age is considered older by Compassion because I just checked and out of 7,684 children only 381 were 8 years old and up!  7,283 were 7 and under!  I look at 12 and up as older.
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Denise is this on the US site? Also, where did you find those numbers? Lol
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When you search ALL children the total number of children is above and to the right side of the children. You can sort by gender, country, orphan, longest waiting, disabled, and by age and it will give you the number of children in each category.
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Yes, on the U.S. Site,
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Oh... lol didn't know, or never paid attention. I've had to not look through kids who need sponsors... I basically close my eyes and click on my account... lol
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I recently switched from a 4 year old girl to a 15 yr old girl.  I wanted a child that could write back to me and that I could help thru those troubling teenage years.  Although my new girl lives in Rwanda and can't possibly have the same kinds of problems that our teens have, she has lost both parents and lives in an area with a high HIV rate.  I just feel I could be more helpful to her than to a young child.  I can't wait to hear from her.
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Mary, first of all, I am so thankful to God that you came to Christ! I have grown up in a Christian home, but I still don't know everything there is to know about the Bible...no one ever can...all I can share with my correspondent child is what I already know and what I'm learning...even though you're new at this, you can do that too! You know the Gospel message, so you can share that with your girl. Adam is right, all you have to do is read! Sometimes it can be difficult to understand, so ask questions! I will also encourage you to find a Bible believing church...every Sunday, I am so refreshed to be with my church family! Do everything you can for your sponsored child...she is so lucky to have you! I will be praying for you, Mary, that you will keep growing in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ! :)
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Mary, they are both correct. There's nothing specific you need to do. Although, I do understand that the Bible can be intimidating. What translation of the Bible do you have? There are so many (Kjv - King James Version, Nlt- New Living Translation, Niv- New International Version etc).

All of us believers were new to believing at some point, some of us are "new" believers many times (like me, I have fallen away from the Lord more than once, but, ultimately I keep going back to God because He is so amazing).

Generally good books in the Bible to start reading are John or Romans. You can also never go wrong reading Proverbs or Psalms.

Also, don't overwhelm yourself with it. Just read a small section at a time. Before you start reading, pray. Pray that God allows you to understand what you are about to read, that He brings clarification, and that He reveals something to you.

Another place to start is reading Jesus Calling by Sarah Young, they are daily devotions that bring the Word of God to life, and easily apply to life today. But, don't use that as a replacement to the Bible, there is no greater thing than finding peace, comfort, and pleasure in sitting down and really absorbing God's word from the Bible.

Keep a notebook and pen handy. As God points stuff out to you, write it down. Write down verses that you really like, question you have, or a prayer that God answered.

God truly is amazing, and the longer you believe, the more you realize how many blessings He really pours out on you.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Oh, also, if there's a verse that jumps out at you, write that verse in a letter to your girl. There's no such thing as sharing too little of God's word. A simple verse can change a life. God bless you...

By the way... Welcome to the family, Sister in Christ!
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Oh, also, if you have a question, come back to this post and let us see of we can help you. You shouldn't be on this walk alone!! So we are here for you as well.
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Very well put, Audrey! We are all supposed to help one another! :)
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Thanks for the kind words my new friends. Although I was saved in 2013 I am just now feeling the need to start getting to know Jesus better. Unfortunately I have some medical issues that make it impossible to drive so I can't get to that church I've been wanting to check out. Also, my husband has quite a phobia of churches so getting him to go with me is a struggle and it's just easier to not go at all. My friend who is a pastor is all the way down in the Caribbean so talking with her is out too. I really appreciate your encouragement. I hope I'll have something to give my new teen friend and if you want to look me up, I'm easy to find on Facebook, Mary Lee Marshman. Blessings to all.

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