Post-Departure Communication

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Our sponsored child has graduated from the program (Ecuador). Quite honestly, it was sudden. One moment she was there and the next not. We've had some life issues that kept us from communicating with her for a long length of time (longer than we ever wanted), but now that we are able to write again, we can't. :(

We are considering filling out the "Post-Departure Contact Release Waiver" and have read through the "Things to Consider" info. My question is this: has anyone continued contact with their graduated sponsored child and if so, we would love to hear of your experience. We would really love to continue contact (if our sponsored child is willing), however some points in the info has given us pause for concern. Any experience (good or bad) is much appreciated.

Thank you in advance!

P.S. Also, if we are able to give a last monetary gift, how do we do that if she is not in our account any more?
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Christine

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Sandy Montoya

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I’ve had multiple children graduate the program but have only chosen to sign this waiver with one girl I’d grown so close to. (She’s in Ecuador.) I’d sent a final letter along with a check for a graduation monetary gift prior to signing the waiver (she did receive both). After I signed the waiver and provided an email address, she emailed me. We used Google translate at first but she is learning English and now writes in English. We became Facebook friends and use the private messenger feature to chat, and also WhatsApp. It is wonderful! We share photos and she tells me of her college classes, sharing snapshots with classmates. She messaged me after two different earthquakes and I was able to comfort and reassure her and pray for her and her family. In this case, I am most grateful for the option to stay in communication with my former sponsored child.
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Christine

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Thank you for sharing your experience with me. It means a lot.
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Hello Christine! I am so sorry that your girl's graduation came so suddenly and as a shock to you :(.  How long ago did your child graduate from the program? Would you be able to give me your sponsor number so that I can look at your account to correctly answer your questions? Compassion does have guidelines on the timeline to send final gifts to the children, and I would like to look at your account to see if that option is still available for you. 
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Christine

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It must have been very recent. She was in the system earlier this month and when I went to check, she wasn’t there this week. Spoke to someone on the phone, and though I could barely understand her with her heavy accent, I got the idea that it was very recent.

My number is 02297668.

As you will see, I did go quite a while without communication (due to health & other issues) and now that I’m in a better position to write on a regular basis, my child has graduated. :( If nothing else, I’d like to send a letter with as much encouragement and hope for the future as I can impart to her. But if circumstances and safety allows it, I’d love to continue communication in the future (hence why I’m asking for others experiences.) :)
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Hello, Christine! I see that Patricia graduated on the 21st of this month, which means you still have plenty of time to send her a final letter and gift, if you would like. You would be unable to send either of those online, since she's no longer in the online database, but you can send a physical letter and a check for a final gift to our address:

Compassion International
Colorado Springs, CO 80997

We ask that you send those by the end of May, and if you do decide to release your contact information to her, we ask that you send that in by the end of August! Please let us know if you have any other questions we can answer for you!
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I'm sure every experience is different with a sponsored child post-graduation.  We kept in contact with only one of our sponsored children.  We thought that it would be a good way to encourage him, however, it has become difficult because he has not been able to find a job and has been asking us for money.  We have been hesitant to do it because we don't want him to depend on us, yet at the same time, he is in difficult circumstances (parents died when he and his siblings were young, so he is the head of the family).  We send money sometimes, and sometimes not, and I have been emotionally torn (wavering between guilt and compassion).  I actually came here to find help.
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Debbie, I am so sorry to hear that your child has been going through such a difficult time with being unable to find a job! I completely understand your heart to want to help him in any way you can while also not causing a dependency issue, and this issue can be really tough to navigate! Are you just seeking advice on how to handle the situation? Regrettably, we cannot tell you what to do, though we always press for caution in sending funds to children for both the dependency issue and the fact that there is no way to confirm that they money is being used how you intended it to be. I do encourage you to keep praying about how to respond to his requests and needs, and I will be praying that God would grant you wisdom in this situation!