REAL STORY, REAL LIVES, REAL TRANSFORMATION - Child Abandonment

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Dear Mr. Mellado,

I am in receipt of your letter dated September 15, 2017, postmarked September 18, 2017, and received on September 21, 2017.  To correctly paraphrase your letter, saying goodbye to a sponsored child is indeed hard but it is even worse when the organization that you trusted to provide compassion and help to impact a life through the gospel is ABANDONED through no fault of his own.

 Did Jesus ever ABANDON anyone?

 Hebrews 13:5 “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

John 14:18 “I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”

Why did you ABANDON this child who for over six years grew to love and understand the gospel and that stranger’s from another country wanted to help him.  Help him to learn, mature and hopefully become an upstanding Christian in his community.  This is now the sad reality of Compassion and is indeed a REAL STORY, REAL LIVES, REAL TRANSFORMATION AS YOU ADVERTISE – but will you tell this story?

 

Regardless of the reason why your partnership failed and the excuse that I was given regarding a “dispute with the Pastor”, you failed this child and you failed me.  People need to know how you just pick up and pull out.  More importantly, you failed to apply the lessons that Jesus has taught us.  You don’t give up and you don’t walk away – YOU STAND FIRM!

 In your letter you actually said, “millions more daily live and believe the lie poverty tells them: that they are worthless, they have no future, and their life doesn’t matter” but that is exactly what you have told Junior Isaac by your actions to pull and run.  You really need to re-read your letter because it describes your ABANDONMENT and is contrary to everything your organization advertises stands for you do not follow your core values and need to reassess your purpose and mission.

 

Your logo says “Releasing children from poverty in the name of Jesus” but your ABANDONMENT just threw him back into poverty.  What kind of message and impression does this leave with this young man and others that you have ABANDONED?  I imagine that he is thinking, “we don’t care about you”, “those people were Christians”, “sorry, we had a disagreement and we are pulling up the stakes”“good luck kid”.

How do you sleep at night knowing that this was done?  How many other times has your organization pulled out and ABANDONED other childrenYou never tell or publish these stories – why?

 

Your letter really hit me, which is why I had to respond and will be publishing this on social media to make others aware of your lack of care and compassion.  To make matters worse, you invite me to sponsor another child but how can I when you have lost my trust?  Your organization is neither a good steward nor a TRUE representation of what you advertise – where is the COMPASSION – where are the Christian values?  You have great advertising and phrases but they are meaningless and just advertising when the curtain is pulled back and the true organization is revealed.

 

I care very much for underprivileged children and wish I had the ability to do more but rest assured that it will not be through your hypocritical and selective organization.  I would recommend that you re-read Matthew 18:12–14 and Luke 15:3–7 – The Parable of the Lost Sheep.

 

I pray that God will help you and direct your path - Proverbs 3:5-6

 

 

Sincerely,

James O’Brien

 

 
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Grace

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Dear James,

I am not part of the compassion staff. Your former child isn't released back into poverty, they get a new sponsor.
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A Kilmetis

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Unfortunately Compassion has not shared what the actual "facts" of what occurred here. All they vaguely told me was that they ended their partnership and the child was no longer participating in their program in this region.
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I would suggest that if you are going to throw accusations around like you have, that you provide readers some detail. You didn't say one thing about what happened, or allegedly happened, to this child. Your post is one accusation after another, with absolutely nothing to back them up. In 22 years, I have never seen Compassion "abandon" anybody. 
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A Kilmetis

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These are the facts as I understand them. I would never make accusations against a organization that Prides themselves on helping underprivileged poor children but this needs to be exposed. I invite Jimmy to come clean and to spell out exactly what happened here and why they pulled up and ran instead of standing firm and working it out for the benefit of these children in this region.
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I think he is referring to the India situation. 
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Garry Sagel

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Compassion was run out of India. They abandoned nobody.
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Erin

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I'm not disagreeing with you. I just thought that might be what he was referring to since I got a letter that mentioned my former sponsored child in India and encouraged me to sponsor another child the other day. Maybe he doesn't fully understand what happened.
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I am in complete agreement with Gary. It seems like you are taking vengeance as well and that will only hurt other children whom need and/or are receiving help.

I'm wondering if maybe Compassion had to close the project due to Pastor not complying with requirements? Compassion has an obligation to be faithful and good managers of the money given to them. If a project does not comply with standards and is not teaching the Gospel then they have the obligation to place the project on notice and then cut ties if the project or pastor doesn't comply. Seems like then it should be the pastor or project you had an issue with, not Compassion. Or did the child leave the project due to his or his family disagreeing with the pastor? Then that is between the pastor and child/family and while Compassion will try to help again that is not their decision on if the child stays or if they drop out of the program it lies with the child and family.

I know how hard it is to lose a sponsor child, I have been there but it is unfair to hurl such accusations at an organization that has done so much to help so many.
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A Kilmetis

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As I said in the prior comment let Jimmy come forward with clear explanation of what occurred and what happens to these children when they close shop and leave.
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I understand you're hurting, but railing against Compassion and hurling accusations with no proof helps no one.
What exactly happened that has upset you?
What would you like to see done to resolve the issue?
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Can I openly say something I think Compassion International is a great Organization and that said all I see is claims of them abandoning children with no actual proof if you can show me proof then that is a different story but til then.I also am wondering if this is a personal attack by the devil trying to discredit Compassion and these baseless allegations need to stop til proven to be true
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A Kilmetis

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I am unable to provide any further proof other than what Compassion has told me through vague letters and telephone messages. Compassion needs to come forward and explain this situation in detail so that everyone has a clear understanding of what happens and then too determine if what they did was compassionate.
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Erin

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Where was your sponsored child located? If it was India, Compassion was forced to leave by the Indian government because they were teaching Christianity to the children. If it's somewhere else, sometimes Compassion ends their child sponsorship with specific child development centers if the center misuses funds, abuses the children, or involves themselves with a different sponsorship organization. Compassion usually works with the center for several months trying to correct the issues before pulling their support.
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Hello James, 
I truly am very sorry to see that the situation with Junior Isaac has made you feel so negatively about Compassion as a whole. Please know that I would love to help you to understand this situation and give you as much detail as possible. However, I have been unable to locate your account as your email address does not match your account, and your name is quite common. Would you please provide me either your sponsor number, or Isaac's child number? I would be happy to look further into this for you once you have done so. Thank you very much! 
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Shannon Massey, Employee

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Hello again James, 
I was able to locate your account and wanted to take a moment to explain what happened with your sweet child, Isaac. 
On June 13 2017, the pastor asked the project facilitator to visit the project to communicate an important decision they had made of not continuing the program. The pastor of the church had decided to stop hosting the Compassion program for a couple of reasons. The first reason being that the church does not have a staff team that show commitment to work with children. Please know that Compassion always does everything that they can to encourage the church to continue with the program, even if this means that we need to find more volunteers, or more staff. However, the church declined because they also had decided to begin focusing in other ministries and other kinds of work in the community, so the pastor does not have the necessary time to support the Compassion center. Furthermore, due to this lack of interest, in the last years, the program has not had the expected impact neither in the life of children, in the parents nor in the community. 
Compassion partners directly with the church, so when the church has made a decision not to continue with the program despite efforts from Compassion for them to continue, there is not much else we can do. However, there are two other Compassion centers close by with the compacity to take on more children. Our report states that all children, with the approval from their parents will be transferred to one of these projects. I would assume that since Isaac was not transferred it is possible that his family decided against the option to transfer to a new project. Thankfully, I also show that although the church has decided not to host the Compassion project, they are still going to focus on helping the children in their community, and will still be available for mentoring these little ones. 
We are so very thankful for the impact that you made on Isaac while he was in the program, and we are thankful to know that he will continue to receive help.   

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