Seems like my children aren't receiving my letters

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Everyone in my family sponsors a child through Compassion and we also sponsor children through other organizations like Gospel for Asia.  We have been with Compassion for...I believe 4 years...and all of the letters that we have received from all of our children seem like they don't receive anything we send them.  Nothing is mentioned of the pictures we send, drawings, stickers, etc.  Some of them don't even mention our names. (We've sponsored 1 or 2 through our company, but we always say our names in our letters, not our company).  The reasoning I heard is that these children are not used to writing letters and that they're given prompts on what to say...and I can understand that.  However, we recently started sponsoring one child through Gospel for Asia and recently received our first letter from her.  It was a night and day difference.  She thanked us for the stickers...she mentioned how she like the boys' drawings...she answered questions.  That really got me wondering why there was such a huge difference...and sadly...questioning if our kids are really being sponsored by us and if our funds are being used the way Compassion says they are.  I question if I should pull of my sponsorship, but I don't want to act rashly and leave our kids hanging.  Is there any way we can get proof that our funds are being used accordingly?
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Hi Lynette! These wonderful ladies are incredible sponsors who I am so grateful for. Their responses are valuable and heartfelt (so thank you ladies!) Because I don't know much more about Gospel for Asia besides their name, I can't really speak to why your kids in that ministry write such great response letters. I can absolutely help you with Puspa, Muriell, and Suksan :). Compassion completely understands that the letter writing process can be frustrating, but we do greatly appreciate the commitment you have made to bless each of your kids with letters despite the lack of response to your extra goodies and questions. The staff in each of our countries do an amazing job with teaching the kids how to respond to letters, but these kids can still struggle with the concept of writing a letter. You are probably the only person your child will ever write a letter to, and sometimes the kids have trouble grasping the concept of having a conversation by mail, especially when they are as young as Puspa and Muriell. It's completely foreign to them. They often take their letters home and put them in a special, safe place. When it is letter writing day at their project, they may forget to bring your letter back and not have any reference to your letter's content. These children also communicate verbally with everyone around them. We highly suggest highlighting one or two of your questions in your next letter to draw the staff's and your child's attention to the questions. I would also suggest taking time to write your kids more often. Our kids are required to write at least twice a year, but can write up to six letters a year if they are written to consistently. I suggest taking ten minutes every three or four months to send them a quick, encouraging note. The more they start to learn about you, the more they will open up about themselves as well. Lynette, I've personally had to discover ways to ease the awkwardness of letters with a few of my own kids too. It's never easy, but I don't want you to give up. Each of your kids is a real child living in poverty who needs to know the hope that Christ brings. You are helping to encourage them every single day with your letters. They may forget to respond to questions or thank you for the stickers, but your letters mean more to them than you will ever know.
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I just want to share how I highlight the questions (when I remember to do so). If I'm typing a letter on my computer to print out, I may underline the questions. When I'm writing a letter online through the Compassion web site, the only way that I know of to bring attention to the questions is to type them in all capital letters.

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