How often should I write to my child?

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In a perfect world how much should I write my child? I have plenty of time to write so daily? weekly? monthly? And what is something fun to send for a 15 year old girl? I feel like a coloring book or something like that would be too "childish"?
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Great questions, Taylor! I, too, have a teenage girl among those whom I sponsor. I thought, as you, that I needed to send less childish items with my letters. And then I met Sarahi, and my view changed! She loved getting coloring books and stickers and all of the same things that the younger girls received. She did not see those as being too childish; she saw them as special things she had never gotten to play with or receive! I was so relieved! Since they don't really get to splurge on things like coloring books, even that is a treat. So, I would encourage you to keep sending anything that you'd like, with the knowledge that everything will be apprecaited, loved and used!

As far as how often to write, we usually recommend about once or twice a month. Of course, we have sponsors who write more often than that, and that is fine as well. It is really up to you and how you want to bless the child. Your child will only receive your letters once, maybe twice, a month (depending on how close her project is to the country office building). So she will receive all of your letters that you write within a month at the same time. It could be a bit overwhelming for her to receive thirty different letters. :)

The important thing is that you do write, no matter how often! We constantly hear stories of how much sponsor letters mean to the children in our program. For some of these children, it is through their sponsor's words of encouragement that their lives are really changed! So, thank you so much for your personal ministry to your sponsored child, and rest assured that YOU are really going to make a difference in her life!
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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled How often should I write my child?.

I was wondering, how many letters is too many. I would love to send them weekly, but if it were to get old for the child, then I could send fewer. Is weekly too much?
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Hi...I have 3 compassion children. I write as often as I can...sometimes daily and sometimes weekly. In my mind...who would get tired of hearing they are loved...they are prayed for and encouraging words? Maybe I am being over zealous but I want to love and encourage as much as I can!
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Hi Jake! Thank you so much for wanting to write to your child and for your desire to write often. Children receive so much encouragement and love from your letters. They are so excited to receive a letter from you and will treasure your letters for years to come! You are welcome to write as often as you would like; we do not limit the amount of letters that you can send. However, we would recommend writing about once or twice a month. Just like Andrea said, we do have sponsors that like to write more often and that is okay, too!
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This reply was created from a merged topic originally titled How often should we write?.

My husband and I just started sponsoring 3 year old twin girls. We are sending out our first letter to them today. My question is, how often can we write? I know that we may not get responses quickly, but I want to continue to write regularly - but since they are so young I also don't want to overwhelm them. Ideas?
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Welcome to the Compassion family, Jess! Thank you for opening up your heart to these two little girls! We recommend writing about once or twice a month. However, you are welcome to write more often, if you would like. Since your girls are 3 years old, they will have a tutor reading the letters to them and assisting them with their letters to you. Like you mentioned, too many letters might be overwhelming since they are so young. Writing once or twice month will ensure they receive a letter regularly. Children get so excited when letter day arrives! Your girls will be blessed by the love you pour into them through your letters!
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Hello! I hate that I am finding this thread just now. I am afraid I have been writing my children too often - roughly twice a week and I do not want to overwhelm them. My question now is this: if I have been writing very often and then I slow down will the children think I no longer care? I am still learning as I am a relatively new sponsor and I hope I haven't made a huge mistake I can't resolve with my letter writing already!
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Hi Rebekah! First of all, you haven't made a huge mistake. It sounds like you're an awesome sponsor and I feel pretty confident just from your question that your sponsored kids thinking you no longer care isn't ever going to be an issue. :) I don't really think there's a right or a wrong answer to how often to write, and Compassion allows sponsors to write as often as they want to, so if you like writing twice a week then I would encourage you to keep doing that. If you slow down, though, I don't think your kids will think you stopped caring if you continue to write to them and stay present in their lives. I think we're probably way harder on ourselves sometimes than we should be. I will tell you that my experience is I started out writing every week and I did that for about a year but after I sponsored my second child it started feeling like a lot and so I switched to writing every month. This year, however, there's been several months that I haven't written at all, and I regret that. I don't have an excuse for that other than to say that's kind of a reflection of how my walk with Christ has been for the past several months. I would like to get back into a routine of writing every month on the same day of the month because I feel like that's about the right frequency for me and I think that consistency is necessary for me to keep writing regularly. I guess the last thing I would say is that we're all just human and thankfully we don't have to do everything perfect to be a sponsor. I'm living proof that's true.
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Rebekah Bell

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Thank you so much for your comment! I am sure your kids are blessed by you too! I love your last two sentences especially. It encourages me that I can love these kids and serve God despite mistakes I have made in my life. Thank you for your testimony and God bless you!

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