Should I write less often?

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I have been sponsoring a child in Ethiopia for about 10 months now. In that time I have sent 3 or 4 letters and a postcard. I understand that Compassion centres have a letter writing day once a month but I have only received one letter from my sponsor child, other than the introduction letter. Does this mean that she chooses not to write most months? I have heard that some sponsors who write regularly receive several replies each year. I ask her questions with each letter and I don't want her to feel pressured to write. What happens at the centres when it is letter writing day and the children have received a letter from their sponsor? Right now I am waiting for a reply so I can write again. Should I write less often to 'match' my sponsor child's preference or should I just go ahead and send a short letter or postcard each month even if I am not receiving regular replies?
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Hi Philippa! I'm so sorry for the disappointment you're feeling with your child's letters so far. It can be tough to feel like you are investing into your child and pouring into her through letters and not receive much back. Because it takes 2-3 months for letters to be delivered both ways, a relationship with your child can take a little while to build. When I first began sponsoring my little girl in Indonesia, during the first year, I wrote her each month and I only received about 3 letters from her outside of the first introduction letter. I have continued to write frequently to her and the past two years, she has opened up so much to me and I have received more frequent letters from her now that we have a consistent flow of letters going back and forth to one another.

Regrettably, I was unable to locate your account by your name or email address. Please post your child's reference number in this forum and I would love check and see if you have a letter on its way to you! If it has been more than 6 months since your last letter, we can send an inquiry to our field office to request a letter and make sure your girl is okay. I would encourage you to continue writing as often as you are able to your child. Ethiopia has the same correspondence process as all of our countries and she receives every letter, sticker, and card that you send to her :). She will be prompted to respond to the letters you send and you can receive up to 6 letters per year from your child. Our staff care deeply for these children and are trained on how to assist the children in improving their letters each time and on the importance of letter writing. We value your relationship with your child and I certainly pray that your relationship with your girl improves the longer you sponsor her. We take these situations case by case and contact our projects individually if we feel that further training is needed to place a bigger emphasis on letter writing or if you are not receiving responses to your letters. I would recommend underlining or highlighting your questions so that they stand out to your child. If you see the same content in your letters overtime or she does not answer your questions, please send us a letter sample. We can ask her tutors to work more closely with her to help improve her letters. Thank you for investing time and love into your sweet girl. Please know that you are making a dramatic difference in her life!