What happens when a child graduates

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I am wondering a couple things: 1) do the compassion centers do anythIng to prepare the young adult for once they graduate the program? 2) if a sponsor will not be continuing the relationship with child after graduation, is there a best way to handle this with the child or prepare the child for this change?
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Stephanie Barnard

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Debbie Skacel Tovar

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they are either in vocational training or in college (or sometimes just out of college).  Since they usually don't graduate until 22, they should have either enough book study or vocational training to let them be a productive adult in the world.  If you have had the child for two years or more, you can fill out a form with Compassion to pass on your information, often they want to become friends on fb.
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Hi Stephanie!  I'll add a little to what Debbie already mentioned.
1. Compassion also has the kids go through a program they call 'My Plan for Tomorrow', which they begin around age 12.  Basically this is a process for the kids to begin setting goals (both short-term and long-term) for themselves and thinking about what they want to do when they graduate from the program.  My now 14-year-old told me her whole class went on a weekend retreat to do their first year's goals.  However, this is a process that they repeat and refine every year until the kids graduate.  So, yes they do prepare the kids both through school/skills training as well as planning ahead for what they will do when they graduate.  They don't just kick them out and hope for the best.

2. You and the child will both have the chance to write final letters to one another, and you will be able to give a graduation gift.  You should be warned well in advance of when the child is scheduled to graduate, so you could also spend that time helping to prepare them for the fact that your relationship with them will end (or at least change greatly) when they finish the program.
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Thank you so much for jumping in over the weekend Emily and Debbie! Stephanie, these ladies gave pretty fantastic answers that I would agree with one hundred percent. To add to their comments, the project staff walk with the students every step of the way, making sure they are prepared for life after they graduate from the Compassion program. Whether the kids have been attending a university or vocational training, they've been given the opportunity to explore their dreams and apply their individual interests into a career of their choosing.

I'd honestly say that every sponsor and child is going to handle the end of the relationship differently. I personally make sure that I give my kids as much encouragement as I can in that final year, often focusing on the hope they have in the Lord and reminding them that they will forever be a part of my life and my family. I also ask them about their future plans and the successes they have already accomplished. I'd encourage you to ask God for wisdom in handling a child's graduation when the time comes for you :).

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