Why are people on OC often asking for others to send them money?

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I've noticed on the new OC that there is a heap of self-promotion going on. Is there any way to dissuade people from doing this? It is getting out of hand. It is distasteful and makes sponsors look like beggars out for themselves and not for the children. There are so many people asking others to send them money via ChipIn or other avenues (to them, not to Compassion, not to the children) for special trips and tours and extra gifts etc... It does not seem right indeed. I do not think this happened so much on the old OC and do not know why it is thus now. I know they say it will be used for the trips or extra gifts to children etc... but those are extras that we would all like to do, but does not seem right to thrust the responsibility onto others and not oneself. As well, some who ask for this are still adding sponsored children often or have had a group funded trip previously and yet want more more. It feels like a charitable act twisted with a greedy act. It is turning me off of the site very much indeed. I know it would be good to help one another out, but it is becoming so commonplace and the sums asked for are skyrocketing it is as if people are feeling entitled to something lovely for themselves because they are a sponsor and that frights me if that becomes the sponsor self concept. I think it makes Compassion look bad to have this going on. It seems selfish. Is there anyone who could politely/gently ask people to tone down asking for money to be sent to themselves? I know you cannot police it, but some kind of suggestion may help? I fear I cannot say it on there as the backlash may be dreadful and also I am not looking to harm anyone's feelings. I'd appreciate a Compassion person's perception on this. Thank you kindly.
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Haley, Sponsor and Donor Relations, Operations

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Hi! Thanks for letting us know how you are feeling. We are going to pass this along to the OC Administrators.
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Shaina Moats

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Hey there! I'm sorry to hear about the issue that you're seeing on ourcompassion. We definitely want you to feel safe when interacting on the community. Here's a link to our community guidelines: http://ourcompassion.org/about/p/term.... Would you take a few moments to look them over? If you feel like any of the posts you have seen violates these guidelines, please send them to us by email so we can look into them further.
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I am concerned about all of the solicitations for money on the OC community forums. Two people recently solicited money and (after receiving those funds) deleted their accounts. I realize that people do not have to give when people ask, but is there a way to discourage or outright ban asking for monetary gifts on the OC forums. I love the community but it really seems to be a problem there lately. SEVERAL people, not just the two who took money and ran, have asked for help with their sponsorships or various other things. I don't feel comfortable pointing new sponsors to the forums until this problem is resolved. Thank you.

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Michelle Wright, Champion

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First of all, as an OC member, I think it would be a good idea for you to have also posted this on the OC board. I did just now share the link to this thread on OC.

That said, OC is a community for sponsors who share a heart for Compassion and other ministries. We are a giving and generous group and many of us like to know of opportunities to give. No one is ever forced or guilted into giving, at least as far as I have seen.

I have not once seen a member ask for donations for "something lovely for themselves." Personally, I have created a ChipIn for a trip to Africa and have been given donations. I may have linked to it on the old OC, but in any case, no one is ever forced to give and many have been excited and happy to donate towards that cause or some of the co-sponsorships that have been arranged.

I would hate to see any sort of restrictions placed on sharing these opportunities to give. As with ANY situation, it is best to trust who you give your money to, but it is up to each individual giver to decide where that line lies. For every one giving opportunity shared, there are dozens and dozens of other types of posts shared. As a community of generous, kind hearted people, I don't see a need to restrict these posts.
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Michelle Wright, Champion

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I also want to clarify that I do not know of one person on OC who has had a group funded trip, not to mention having a funded trip and asking for more.
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Shaina, maybe you could open up a forum especially for these fundraisers? I would hate to see it taken off completely b/c group sponsorships, project gifts, etc. benefit the children that OC exist for.
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I, too, have wondered about this. Some of the asking, I feel, is too much and too self-centered. Like asking money so they can continue sponsoring their kids. Others, though, like a fund raiser for a certain research or a different organization (like Cure.org) are good. I personally don't give unless it's to a trustworthy organization like Compassion or Kiva (I found this on OC by the way). When a person asks for money to continue sponsoring their children, then warning bells sound off in my mind and spirit. When a person has to give up sponsoring a child, then it is wonderful that they post that particular child so others can pray and maybe even sponsor that child. I have seen the Lord work miracles through this site, but I have also seen others taking advantage of generous people. It saddens me, that this seems to be the case lately. It is, however, NOT the norm. It just seems that way, especially within the last few days. I do enjoy learning about different organizations like Cure and Kiva, or about fundraisers for a family gift (like necklaces and candles and such). This community has shown the best Christianity has to offer. Even the rebukes are done in a Christian, loving, and concerned way. Not once have I read a post that made me feel like the writer was being belittled or devalued in any way. There is a spirit of unity on OC, and I would hate for it to disappear over a few incidents. The unity reminds me of the prayer that Jesus prayed before He died on the cross, that we, His church, would be unified.
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I have used the chipin for a co-sponsorship, but in reading this I realized I can give through Compassion because it is a sponored child and I probably will give through the office in the future. I think Beverly's idea of a forum for fundraising is a possibility that would be worth exploring.
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Michelle Wright, Champion

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Hannah's new child is a gift from her parent,s who are paying for the sponsorship.

"Erin, she was a gift from my parents. I had told them a few days before that I had fallen in love with this little girl from Haiti, and yesterday morning they told me to go check my Compassion account and there she was! I would not have sponsored her if I was paying for it myself :)"
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Michelle Wright, Champion

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This was in reply to a post by pcnrcats, which was deleted while my post was going through.
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Thanks Michelle, we are aware of this specific situation. She is a very sweet young lady with a wonderful relationship with Compassion, and we are very happy to be able to assist her in staying connected to her sponsored children.
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Michelle Wright, Champion

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Haley, I know H. is a great sponsor and I was replying to a comment that was left and then deleted by another member.

We are so thankful that CI is willing to work with sponsor who may have a tight month or two. This allows the sponsors to stay connected to their child. It shows that the relationship between sponsor and child is important.

Thanks for all that you do, Haley!