Writing about death in the family

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I'm looking for advice on how to communicate to my sponsor kids about the passing of my father. I have two sponsor kids who are 10 years old and one who is 20 years old. I'm overdue sending each of them letters but am feeling rather uninspired at the moment. I'm tempted to send each a short card telling them he passed away so that they have the information and know I haven't forgotten about them, but that seems rather depressing and not sure I want that to be the sole topic of a card/letter. Is it better just to wait a bit longer until I'm up for writing full length letters?
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Carol Balts Klabunde

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I would just let them know that you are thinking about them but not able to write a lot for a while. Tell them your father died and ask for their prayers. That will allow them to help you like you help them. Be sure to tell them you are sad but you know he is now happy in heaven.
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Hi Karen, thank you very much for reaching out about this. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. :( Carol's suggestion is great. Honesty and openness invite a child to a deeper, more personal relationship with you, and something short and to the point would do well at conveying the message. Euphemisms, such as "passed away" in reference to a death, don't always convey the message you intend, so when discussing personal issues like this, the best approach is to state the fact simply for them. Children love being able to pray for their sponsors, so if you ask for their prayers during this time, I'm sure that would be meaningful to them.

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